Man Calls Off His Wedding After His Fiancé Insists on Plastering Pictures of Her Late Husband All Over the Reception

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    Photobombed by the ghost of weddings past"
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    AITAH for postponing our wedding because my fiance wants to have pictures of her late husband in it? Advice Needed My fiance and I have been together for about 3 years.
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    We got engaged 6 months ago. We were doing some planning and she mentioned "Where do you think "late husband's name" Pic could go? I was confused, and asked her to clarify.
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    She said she wants her late husband's picture at the wedding, she went into more detail, at my request. She wants one of the bridesmaids to hold his picture during the ceremony. As well as having his
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    Pic on our table. And when taking Pics, she wants to hold him in most pictures. I told her that I didn't want that, and while I understand he's important to her, I'd feel uncomfortable with his pictures in our wedding, especially when they're so prominent.
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    We got into a fight and she yelled "I can't believe you're jealous! dead! What, do you him at our He's think I'm gonna wedding?"
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    I decided to postpone the wedding, and honestly, I'm thinking of calling it off all together.
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    Kep63 22 hr. ago Ok...I'm a widow of 12 years and this just isn't right. I understand she may want a memory of him with her but...pictures of him in pictures of you two is just wrong on many levels!! There are many
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    inconspicuous ways of having him with her. You are 100% right for postponing your wedding and possibly canceling it too. My thoughts are she isn't ready to move on yet. Why I don't know she needs some counseling to find out or some deep soul searching.
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    exhaustedmind247 16 hr. ago Exactly... having a memorial table for passed loved ones is one thing... but this is excessive and definitely shows she's having some emotional struggles
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    Sweatpantssuperstar 15 hr. ago I was thinking the memorial table too! Totally valid and reasonable. OPs wife isn't ready.
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    QueenOfNZ 11 hr. ago Yep, at my wedding we had a single seat with a sign that said "we know you would be here today, if heaven weren't so far away" and photos of our loved ones who had passed.
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    Saving a seat for them was meaningful and made it feel like they were included in our wedding. Wanting a photo of late husband in something like
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    this, alongside other late family members would be entirely appropriate. But holding a photo, having the photo on the main table etc is just... no.
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    atmasabr 1 day ago NTA. She's going overboard, and the symbolism is not good. She has to have "a place" for him, that's understandable. But there are two stars in the wedding, not three.
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    This is not about jealousy. It is not about minimizing a permanent grief. It's about if your wife has the capacity to marry you
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    Outrageous-Ad-9069 - 22 hr. ago The symbolism makes it seem like a renewal of vows with OP as a stand-in.
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    BigMax 22 hr. ago Right. "I'm STILL married to my former husband. And I want everyone to know that. This new guy is not my new husband, he's a stand-in for the husband I want. He'll do for some things I suppose."
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    DuePromotion287 23 hr. ago NTA- that is an extreme request. It is way overboard. She is not ready to marry you.
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    Nightwish1976 · 23 hr. ago NTA. A wedding is supposed to be a celebration of things to be, not of dead spouses.
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    21stCenturyJanes 22 hr. ago Yes, a wedding is all about celebrating a new life together, not about honoring the dead or being stuck in your old life!
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    gastropod 43 23 hr. ago NTA She is not ready to marry you. After 3 years, she may never be ready.
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    NeedleworkerPresent6 21 hr. ago edited 21 hr. ago I lost my husband 6.5 years ago and am just now dating. I would imagine having pictures of him (her late husband) at the wedding would be odd for the groom and his entire side. ΝΤΑ
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    Humorilove 21 hr. ago I had a friend that wore a locket on her wedding day with a picture of her now husband and her late husband. It was a gift from her groom. I thought it was a sweet way for him to
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    show he acknowledged both her past and present, without putting too much attention on it. What this bride wants to do is ridiculous. I get having a picture to honor him, but in every single photo? That's overkill.
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    4Bforever 21 hr. ago Or her holding the photo? In one of their wedding pictures? Nope
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    lisak399 20 hr. ago He said MOST pictures! Can you imagine your wedding album being photobombed by the ghost of weddings past? She isn't ready to remarry, that's for sure.

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